Scholarly Reflections
Koukl, Gregory. (2019). "Chapter Six: Two Reliable Rescues." In Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (updated and expanded). pp. 87-95. Grand Rapids: Zondervan.
Koukl has previously discussed using effective questioning to maintain a pleasant discussion which moves to the goal of uncovering truth claims to evaluate them. At times a discussion can veer from that track. In this chapter Koukl describes two methods of redirecting the conversation (Koukl 2019, p. 87).
The first tactic he calls "the professor ploy." When confronted by a hostile but powerful witness, such as a professor in his classroom, Koukl suggests asking for more detail about the particular negative view expressed. Seek clarity on the specifics of the view. Ask for evidence that leads to the conclusions (Koukl 2019, p. 88). Koukl sees this as keeping the burden of proof on the person making the negative claim. The pitfall to watch for is the "professor" attempting to shift the burden of proof. It is perfectly legitimate to politely insist that the person who has been articulating a point of view continue to do so. The questioner has not expressed a point of view, merely curiosity (Koukl 2019, pp. 89-90).
Another difficulty Koukl discusses occurs when the person with the contrary view is more aggressive, throwing large amounts of detailed information or questions back. Koukl discusses this in terms of finding yourself "in the hot seat" (Koukl 2019, p. 90). The discomfort is present because the other person is in the driver's seat of the conversation. Koukl recommends immediately moving into "fact-finding mode," asking the other person to slow down, and explain the view in order, allowing for questions (Koukl 2019, p. 91). Itthen becomes possible to regroup or to gently end the conversation with intent to continue later. The words, "now let me think about it" simultaneously refuse to argue and promise to follow up (Koukl 2019, p. 92). Koukl suggests taking careful notes and engaging in research regarding the particulars prior to a follow-up conversation. The ideas may prove valuable in other discussions with other people as well.
Koukl closes the chapter by urging practice in narrating a conversation. For instance, especially when clarity is departing, it's possible to pause and describe the situation (Koukl 2019, p. 93). It is reasonable to say you have asked some questions but that the answers have led in a different direction, then to reiterate the questions. It is also possible to be more forceful. For instance, if a person calls you a bigot rather than answering a question, it is fair to request an explanation for a reason (Koukl 2019, p. 94).